Toxic Mother/Daughter Relationships, When to Cut Family Members off
When the daughter was 12, her mother made yet another trip to the family court to collect more money from the girl’s father.
Unlike today these were the days when welfare was paramount and a black man could deny a child in court and he would not have to pay child support JUST based on his word. Today, black men have spent so many years away from their biological children that many pay child support and don’t have contact with their children because of what they saw from their own fathers and grandfathers when it came to the system.
In many cases, back then, the mothers were forced to get on welfare which was a system that berated and owned black women and threw away black men for a check and did not allow the mother to have any signs of a man being in the house in exchange for the financial handout/reward.
The Black Man Defeated by Welfare
Since the Black man was rarely hired anyplace because of racism and discrimination and many were not able to take care of their children because of that, welfare, and living in subsidized housing was often the only option for black women. But the process, of course, helped to desecrate the black family.
In this situation, my friend’s father was willing to give support. Her father mentioned to the judge that he was paying so much for child support and being dragged into court so much that the daughter might as well come and live with him. He was saying that in jest not imagining this was possible.
The judge agreed and asked the 12-year-old girl, at the time, if They tried to have a relationship after that for several years but constantly fell out and would not speak for periods at a time. Then when the daughter, a grown woman now, decided to get a divorce from her husband, her mother went to court and took the husband’s side. The daughter, at this point, had great disdain for her mother to the point that
To make matters worse, her mother feels that her daughter owes HER an apology. She feels
A Turn for the Worse: Toxic Mothers