Years of Therapy or Resolved in an Instant?
Let me start this off by saying I am not a licensed therapist. I can only talk about the things that work best for me in my life. You make the choice and understand the possible consequences or benefits but this is only a suggestion.
You can spend many years at a therapist’s office talking about situations that have enslaved you and caused depression. Depression is something that is often a result of still unresolved and lingering events that have negative effects on our well-being.
Yet it is incredibly ironic, but not surprising, and rare that a therapist tells you to confront the person. Of course, it wouldn’t be a in thier best interest or a good idea to do so because if you confront them and somebody kills somebody they have to take responsibility for it and lose thier license or worse. It’s all part of the requirements cast upon them in that profession. But the truth is, with caution and reasonable distance, it’s the best way to resolve a past negative situation instantly. Make sure it’s safe for you do approach someone before you do it and if you do it.
Leaving Their Garbage in Your House
When someone does you wrong it’s like they put a fresh bag of garbage in your house that continues to rot and becomes putrid with nats, flies and maggots over time and every time you walk in the house you smell it while it’s sitting there getting more and more putrid and it starts to annoy you and bother you until it starts to make you sick.
This can be looked at as depression ultimately. You can go and try to get help for the bag of garbage in your house by talking to someone about it and telling them that it stinks and you can’t stand the smell anymore and they will probably eventuaallly cut you off because now YOU have become a negative force in their lives.
You can go to a therapist who will tell you to write a letter to the garbage bag or change the way you feel about the garbage but it still stinks. The truth is until you take the garbage out nothings going to change.
A lot of the time that garbage is the wrongdoing that someone has afflicted upon you. They have gone on with their lives feeling absolutely nothing and for the most part, they probably don’t even remember what they said or did.
But you still carry the weght of the event even when you think you don’t. It can come in the form of an extra drink, extra food, extra sex, drugs or shopping for things we don’t need … anything to make us feel better about ourselves because we did not or were not able to stand up for ourselves when the event took place.
It is absolutely to your benefit (with caution) for you to confront somebody face-to-phone about something they did wrong to you a month ago, a week ago, or several years ago. There are many other ways to communicate with someone via phone social media or the other forgotten benefit of writing a letter. It’s the best way to honor, love and take care of ourselves.
The Source of Pain is the Cure for Pain
The therapists are right about writing the letter and it’s true that once you put on paper how you feel with your own handwriting you do release it to the universe but then once you tear that letter up what happens?
They never explain that part. If u let it get to the person and they read it and respond then there’s going to be a benefit to you whether or not they take responibility or whether or not they apologize.
Our freedom is in the acknowledgment. As long as they know, THAT is what saves us and spares us from the pain of depression, frustration and a life living in the lack.
I can only speak of my own experiences, But in life whenever someone has done me wrong and I approach them for the most part either they acknowledged it or didn’t remember but they still apologized for it and I was aesthetically free!
No longer holding a grudge, no longer hating them, no longer being pissed at them and no longer waiting for karma to take her course (and
